SPECIAL HONORARIES:(as part of the wedding party processional and recessional)
The special honoraries are typically related or very close in relationship with the Bride and Groom and hold a special place in their lives; hence, their wanting to honor them on their special day. They are to be honored, not tasked throughout the planning process, as is often the case. Of course, you want them there to help and protect you on your wedding day, but they are honories, not work horses. These guests should be pampered right along with you on your special day, allowing all of you to enjoy your time together.
Parents-of-the-Bride – The Mother-of-the-Bride is typically escorted down the aisle by an Usher or other guest after the Parents-of-the-Groom just prior to the wedding party processional. The Father-of-the-Bride typically escorts the Bride down the aisle after the wedding party processional.
Parents-of-the-Groom – The Mother-of-the-Groom is typically escorted down the aisle by the Father-of-the-Groom, Usher or other guest after the Grandparents-of-the-Bride and just prior to the Mother-of-the-Bride procession.
Grandparents-of-the-Bride – Escorted down the aisle by spouse, an Usher or other guest after the Grandparents-of-the-Groom and just prior to the parents procession. If able, they could also be honored with the lighting of the family candle on the Bride’s side.
Grandparents-of-the-Groom – The first in the processional to be escorted down the aisle by spouse, an Usher or other guest just prior to the Grandparents-of-the-Bride procession. If able, they could also be honored with the lighting of the family candle on the Groom’s side.
Maid/Matron-of-Honor(s) – these honoraries are responsible for making sure the bride is tended to at all times on her wedding day. Unless there is a Wedding Coordinator, all issues are to be addressed through this honorary in an effort to protect the bride’s emotional stress level. In addition, unless there is an Event Planner, the Maid/Matron-of-Honor(s) is/are the ‘planner(s)’ of any pre-wedding bridal festivities, such as the Bridal Shower and/or Bachelorette Party.
Best Man/Men – these honoraries are responsible for making sure the groom is tended to at all times on his wedding day. Unless there is a wedding planner, all issues are to be addressed through this honorary in an effort to protect the groom’s stress level. In addition, unless there is an Event Planner, the Best Man/Men is/are the ‘planner(s)’ of any pre-wedding groom festivities, such as the Bachelor Party.
Bridesmaids/matrons – these honoraries are the Maid/Matron-of-Honors’ back up in tending to the Bride on her wedding day and assisting in the planning of any pre-wedding bridal festivities, such as the Bridal Shower and/or Bachelorette Party.
Groomsmen – these honorees are the Best Mans’ back up in tending to the Groom on his wedding day and assisting in the planning of any pre-wedding groom festivities, such as the Bachelor Party.
Children-of-the-Bride/Groom – depending on their age, they can serve in many capacities … ring bearer/flower girl; Jr. Bridesmaid or Jr. Groomsman; Maid/Matron-of-Honor/Best Man. If able, they could also be honored with the lighting of the family candle on the either side or both sides. Or, in the alternative, they can be a part of lighting the Unity Candle with the Bride & Groom.
Ring Bearer – typically of a younger age, the ring bearer will carry a pillow holding the Bride and Grooms’ wedding rings down the aisle and gives them to the Officiant.
Flower Girl – typically of a younger age, the Flower Girl will carry a basket of rose petals and sprinkle the aisle with the petals just before the Bride enters so that she is the only one (along with her escort) that walks upon the petals on the way to her future spouse.
HONORARIES:(special guests to be honored that are not in the wedding party)
There are often many others that you want to honor by having them be a part of your special day so that you can let everyone know, these are the special people in your lives. A few ideas would be:
Officiant – do you have an ordained minister as a family member or friend that may want to officiate your vows? I am certain they would be honored to be such a huge part of your special day!
Readers – have a special guest or two share a reading with your guests, whether a scripture verse, poem or sentimental story.
Music – have a gifted guest share their musical talent, whether vocally, instrumentally or technically.
Ushers – let your Groomsmen off the hook and allow other special guests to Usher your guests to their seats. One or two of the may even serve to Usher your Special Honoraries down the aisle in their spouses absence or if they are single.
Doormen – have a couple of special guests ‘man’ the doors as they ‘let in’ the wedding party one at a time for the processional.
Hosts – they should be the first to arrive at the ceremony and at the reception, where you will want all of your guests greeted and seated with a smile. Your hosts should hand your guests the program or bulletin, tossing graffiti and be able to answer most questions asked, like where to find the guest book to sign in, where to find their favors and where to place their gifts. You may want to have several Hosts for different stations, if there are several you want to include in your special day.